I have always been an organized person. I was that girl who planned out every minute of every day, and had a myriad of notebooks filled with to do lists and weekly goals and such. But when 2019 rolled around and I graduated from university, all of my planning kind of just…fell away.
At first, it wasn’t a huge deal to me. I told myself that once I started working, or pursued further studies, I would go back to being my normal, organized self. Slowly, it started eating away at me. I never did anything new. Everyday felt the same as the one before, and I felt lazy and unmotivated in life. Five months later, and I can admit that I am in a rut.
As we all know, the first step to overcoming a problem is admitting you have one, which I have just done. Below, I have complied a list of things I will be doing to get out of this rut. If you’re feeling the same way as I am, keep reading so we can get out of this together! 🙂
*Disclaimer: I am in no way, shape, or form a professional of any sort. If you are feeling depressed, or think your mental health is deteriorating, please reach out to your friends/family/a doctor and seek help. The tips below are just my experience of things that might make someone feel better if they're having a few down days, and nothing more than that.*
Why do you feel so blue?
After admitting to yourself that you are in a rut, it’s time to understand why. Why are you feeling this way? What is causing this? There are multiple ways to figure out the answer to this question:
- meditate, or do yoga, to clear your mind and focus on the why.
- sit down with a notebook and a cup of coffee and out write your feelings. Try to do a stream of consciousness activity where you just write out what you’re thinking.
- (my personal fave) talk to your mom, or your best friend. Sometimes, bouncing off of one another helps you figure out your subconscious. Things you didn’t think of before surface and you end up feeling lighter.
Once you’ve figured out your answer, try and see if you can eliminate it from your life straight away. 99% of the time it isn’t that straight forward, but if you’re in a situation where it’s in the 1%, time to say buh-bye to whatever is upsetting you. Cut it right out of your life!
For me personally, I guess what’s been making me feel so BLAH the past few months is the lack of routine. I love a good routine, which is why I benefit greatly from going to classes/work. Having a schedule keeps order in my life, mentally and literally. Sitting at home all day has taken that away from me, and since I’m not the most self-disciplined person in the world, I can’t magically snap out of it by just telling myself to. So now that I’ve identified my problem, I know what I need to do to make myself feel better!
Messy room = messy life
I’ve always been a HUGE advocate of keeping my surroundings clean and tidy, so this is a major part of getting my life back on track for me. Tidying and giving my room a makeover entails the following:
- wiping down all surfaces (shelves, dresser, bedside table)
- changing my sheets
- opening my windows and letting fresh air and sunlight inside
- vacuuming and mopping the floor
- doing my laundry and sorting out my closet
- lighting a scented candle
- moving the furniture around to give the room a new feel
- buying a few pieces for the space, like plants, picture frames, or fairy lights
Once you’ve had a mini spring clean, I can guarantee you’ll feel ten times better than you did before. It brings in new energy and touches into the Feng Shui aspect of things (not that I necessarily believe in that stuff, but it’s a step towards something positive nonetheless).
Bring it back to basics
My final tip for getting out of a rut is to keep is simple. Just start off by setting your alarm earlier in the morning. Shower, have a good breakfast with nutritious foods, and get ready for the day. Exercise, make plans, get outside! I think just making sure that you’re doing the bare minimum everyday is a great start to getting out of a rut.
This is the most difficult part for me and it might be for you too, because it requires consistency. You can’t just do it once and expect to feel 100% yourself again. But it does get easier every time you go through the motions, which helps!
Another thing that helps is writing down what you need to do everyday so you can go back and reference it. I’m going to show you my list that I keep on the notes section of my phone, and maybe it can be a good starting point for you to write your own!
Arshelski's Daily To Dos
- Wake up at a reasonable time.
- Brush my teeth, do my hair, and practice my morning skincare routine.
- Eat a good breakfast of fruit, and a healthy lunch.
- Make a plan for the day. Keep a good mix of fun and boring/necessary things to do so there’s a good balance.
- Work out.
- Do NOT get sucked into the blackhole that is Netflix!
- Shower post-work out.
- Eat a nutritious dinner.
- Hang out with family.
- Brush my teeth, do my hair, and practice my nighttime skincare routine.
- Treat myself with a TV show or a movie (but not more than one – watch responsibly!)
- Pray, thank God for all of my blessings, and go straight to bed!